A Favorite Quote

"You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt with. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding." — Cheryl Strayed


“I love to use quotes and apply them to my daily life. I thought it would be fun to share this with you; I hope you can take a piece of it with you, either from the quote itself or my interpretation of it. Enjoy!”


Our parents gave us the gift of life, and everything else is a bonus. Whether that life was complicated or it was a scene out of “Leave it To Beaver,” we’ve got to take whatever we are given and make the most of it.

All of us are going to be dealt bad cards at one time or another. It’s how you play them that determines your outcome. On a personal level, I’ve learned that the best way to play is to take all of my emotions out of the equation before I make my next move. I always “sleep on it.” It’s the only way I can play that hand in the smartest way possible. A good poker face works every time and you need to be able to read other people to know when they are bluffing.

In the real estate business, we help people play their best hand 350 times a year. We look at their cards, see what they’re holding and show them how to play the hell out of them.  It’s like playing with a professional poker player vs. an amateur whose only experience is playing Old Maid with their kids. There’s no comparison.

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Some of the things I do that really help me when I’ve got to figure out how to play that less than desirable hand I’ve been dealt:

  • I get up early in the morning and walk alone just to clear my head. On these long walks, I count my blessings; I say “hello” to the people walking by me. I appreciate the small interactions in the early hours. It helps.
  • I meditate.
  • I get away with my kids. I took them to Dockweiler beach last weekend in an RV and actually drove that beast with my trucker hat on! It was one of the best times I had in my life just hanging out and roasting ‘smores by the campfire. I like taking myself back to being a 7-year-old. It’s so fun to be a kid with my kids.
  • I read inspiring quotes that change my perception of things.
  • I call my best friends and ask for their support in helping me reframe things and see my situation a little differently. I let them in, am vulnerable with them, and they ‘see’ the real me.

I love helping people play their cards well, and the icing on the cake is seeing them in the home of their dreams! None of us are coasting through life with a perfect hand all the time. All of us have baggage we deal with. We all have a story. Those people are just playing their cards well. Those people know how to bluff, and they sometimes know when you need to fold your hand and move on. They know how to make the most of what they’ve got or don’t have.

And we can all learn to play just like them.

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