Forgiveness: Now We Need It More Than Ever

"Forgiveness doesn't just sit there like a pretty boy in a bar. Forgiveness is the old fat guy you have to haul up the hill." ~ Cheryl Strayed


“This quote always makes me laugh and reminds me how true this really is. I thought it was timely to share with Thanksgiving fast approaching. We all have to put aside our differences when being with family for the holidays. Everyone likes their turkey dinner differently and sometimes they do not like it at all! And forgiveness is just a start.”


Forgiveness, whether it be for ourselves or someone else is truly not the pretty boy in the bar even though we all wish it were. It’s one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do in your life and can sometimes feel as challenging as having to actually haul some old fat guy up a hill!

Forgiveness for me is one of the most integral parts of life. Forgiving other people and ultimately forgiving ourselves is something that’s essential for living a full and authentic life and one that is full of love.

Many of our deep-seated wounds come from things that happened to us as a child and a lot of times those wounds deepen and become more painful after years and years of trying to heal them in the wrong ways.

So one of the things I try to do when I’m struggling to forgive myself or another person is to go back and see myself or that other person as a child and then finding compassion and understanding for why that child is the way they are.  And when I do this, I find it makes it much easier to forgive myself or that other person because of the love and compassion I have for that small child.

In business, we find a lot of compassion for our clients because every client is in a completely different situation when they come to us.  Many times we’re working with people going through a divorce or a death and helping them find the compassion and forgiveness for both themselves and the other people in their lives is what I think we do best. We really help guide them through the process by finding that empathy within them and seeing how we can help them move forward and possibly forgive other people so that they come out in the best light.

Forgiveness may never be that pretty boy in the bar, but hauling that fat guy up the hill will be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling things you’ll ever do! Many of you know that my motto in life is “Peace + Big Love.” I bring it into absolutely everything I do. I promise you that if you can go out into the world with that attitude, you can change not just other people’s lives but your own. Small things like giving back and forgiveness are just some of the ways we can manifest more peace and big love in the world… especially now in a time when our country needs it most.  It heals all of the wounds in the most profound and loving way. And we’re all deserving of that.

weekly_pardee_blog_images10-23-07